One of my friends is a PhD student in a Canadian university and she shared on social media recently some questions that one of her Professors had posed in a recent class. I loved the questions and decided to answer them for myself. Why don’t you do the same in the comments box below?
What is desire?
Desire is a feeling. It’s what attracts me towards another person. It’s a want.
How is desire formed?
I don’t quite know how desire is formed. Sometimes it does not exist and suddenly, it’s there. A while ago I took part in a photo shoot. The photographer’s assistant walked by, his trousers hanging perfectly over his bum. In a flash I imagined him lean and toned underneath his clothes. I felt desire for him. The hairdresser stood in front of me, lifting up strands of my locs and coiling them into a topknot. She wore a white vest, no bra, her nipples erect. I found myself wondering several times what it would be like to pop them into my mouth. The maestro photographer would stand at a distance and look at me. He would say, “What you just did with your hand. Do that again”. Then he would look through his camera, and create the image he saw. He was also desirable.
Is desire cultural?
I understand culture to be a way of life. So yes, I can see how desire can be cultural. How you can desire a particular body because that is what your society has said is to be wanted.
What does it mean to desire women?
It means to hope that the woman you desire, desires you, and has the courage to come on to you because you do not have the script of what to say or do when you desire a woman.
What does it mean to be a woman who desires?
It means to be in touch with your feelings, your wants, your needs, and to work constantly on reminding yourself that it’s a good thing to be a woman who desires.
So go on, what are your answers to these questions?