I had never really thought about BDSM until I decided to actively read about it. I always felt there was something unexplored there. I knew I loved vanilla spanking and choking but I was never fully satisfied with how it was given to me. If I asked mid sex it sometimes broke the rhythm. So I left it to masturbating to fantasies. My first stop was BDSM squirting porn and OhMaGah, I became obsessed.
What changed everything for me was seeing black people like me, indulging in it. It opened my mind up to what I figured was impossible. NSFW Tumblr is the best thing that ever happened. My favourites right now are damagictouch.tumblr.com and kinkyblackgirl.tumblr.com . It is comforting and extremely arousing to see black bodies, all shapes and sizes fucking each other with such fantastic abandon.
What I love about BDSM as showcased is that it has a lot to do with the mind and it involves coming up with an evolving contract. (The mind fuck I can never get enough of. So reading about and seeing this kind of play is amazing.) I get to sit down with a man, decide the rules and go and play. This is great because it extends beyond the bedroom. A healthy and exciting sub-dom relationship has to be built, takes patience and the result is worth it. When you say ‘Yes Daddy’ you mean it and he can feel it to the core.
I am definitely a sub but having trouble finding a Dom and I have questions. How do you find a compatible partner? Are there tell-tale signs or do you just come out with it? Anyone here living this BDSM lifestyle? Help.
5 comments On BDSM…Dare to Venture by Guest Contributor Aunt Andre
BDSM and role play go together, it is always good to know your limit and you agree with your partner when to stop and the signs you may give to let him or her know you have reached your limit. it is not always fun .
Thanks for sharing this. Definitely don’t know enough about BDSM and looking forward to checking out the sites you’ve referenced.
Funny though, we have an underground BDSM community here in Lagos, always getting requests for people looking for Subs. Certainly a mind over matter fantasy. Not sure it is for me though.
not that many people looking for doms then Madam Butterfly?
Wow, wish I can be doing this with my woman,