I have never worn a bikini in my life and unless I have a miraculous bodily transformation in the next few months I doubt if I ever will. As I write this, I am sitting on a beautiful beach in the Gambia, dressed in black trousers and a short sleeved shirt, whilst all around me are women and men of all ages dressed in little scraps of nothing. I am here for a conference, they are here for a holiday – and from what I hear, perhaps some sex tourism.
There is an old lady sitting not too far away from me, she is wearing a hot pink bikini, she saunters casually from her sun bed to a table for her lunch, her belly is rolling over her bikini top, her bottom is saggy, her skin is wrinkled, yet she seems not to have a care in the world. I envy her this body confidence. It reminds me of an alternative scenario:
Man: (Naked, sitting on toilet, with door open doing a number 1) don’t move away you have a beautiful African body
Woman: (Naked, caught in the glare of harsh bathroom light trying to retreat to the comfort of the dark room)…
For as long as I can remember I have always had issues with the size of my belly, some of my friends have beautiful flat tummies but not I. I know there are other parts of my body that make up for my sizable belly – I quite like my breasts for example, they are big and well shaped, and although they are starting to head a little south I still have no issues with them. From what I hear, my legs are not bad either but as for the tummy I don’t think anything short of a drastic diet, constant crunches or plastic surgery will help. In the past I have tried the drastic diets and constant crunches, yes the belly does go down a tad but not by that much – it’s still not flat enough for me to wear a bikini. My sister thinks I’m crazy, she thinks I have a small belly (well, compared to her I do) she says if she had my body, she will wear a bikini.
9 comments On Body Confidence: Bikini Body Beautiful?
Err you have a smaller body than I have and errr I WEAR bikini’s. So yea sweetie.. its the only one you have ( your body that is) so enjoy it before you remember the “Good old days”.
I used to say that i would do x when i looked like y but i realized I see my “flaws” no one else sees them so why focus on the unseen?
We shd go bikini shopping 🙂
Having gone to the local strip joint several times in my college days, I can tell you that the way a woman looks unclothed is often far better than she looks in clothes. My thought is that clothes have a way of creating demarcations on a body and serve to localize one’s perspective, whereas naked women are a seamless panorama.
the answer: go naked on beaches, or get the smallest bikini possible.
Kajsa,
I agree with BrownAngel on this one. The small tummy you have today will likely be bigger tomorrow, so today is the day for bikini! (btw I think you have rocking body!)
Also, when I feel body conscious, like we all do at times, I think about the signals I’d be sending to my unborn daughters – do I want to tell them only super models should be “allowed” to wear bikinis and other small outfits on the beach?
@BrownAngel – I do enjoy my body, I can do short dresses, sexy tops, just can’t do bikin’s….oh well, maybe one day. My goal is to be like Madonna and look hotter with age. Maybe I will wear a bikini when I’m 50
@Kofi – Ahem, you sound like quite the expert 🙂 Hmmm, seamless panorama eh? Better naked than in clothes? How about better looking in some extremely sexy lingerie or naked is still better?
@Kajsa -I totally agree with you on not passing on body issues to our darling unborm daughters. However, we do have to teach them to dress for their shape, right?
for my money, a nice roomy cotton t-shirt beats sexy lingerie any day. and naked is even better than that! 🙂
no expert, i hasten to demur, just an enthusiastic amateur.
Nana, don’t let the old lady you saw fool ya. There is “body confidence” and then there is “knowing no shame”.
Shop around and you will find the beach/ swim wear that makes you look like paradise. If you hosted a pool party every weekend, I bet you’d have found the perfect one by now.
@Kofi – Are you sure you’re not an expert? Smiling at the thought of an “enthusiastic amateur”
@Mike – Oh, you are so blatant. That old lady in particular I thought had body confidence but you’re right, some people just have no shame. A pool party every weekend? Perhaps, I shall aim to acquire a pool one day
I know I know. I’m blatant on days that end in “y”. I need to change and be a more “feel-good” type of guy.
About getting the pool – just gwaaaan! I’m wishing that for you so expect it to happen soon. You know how to swim right? If not, start taking lessons.
I understand Nana’s point completely. Nothing can ever get me into a bikini. I’m the girl who wears jeans at the beach. No no no!!!!!!!! I don’t have that kind of body confidence and whilst I admire the body confidence of people who wear bikinis in public but really shouldn’t, I can’t help my instinctive reaction of “Oh God! My EYES!!!!!!!!!!!” Rather than wear a bikini, I’ll muss up my hair and go naked so people would just think I’m mad. I know my limitations. This body of mine is only for viewing through a filter of love (or at least lust)!