I grew up in the church. That probably tells you a lot about how I’ve been conditioned to think about sex and pleasure, especially as it relates to me as a spiritual being. I hadn’t always internalised the shameful messaging I was taught about sexuality. I remember being 10 or 11 years old and starting to notice things about myself and my body. I enjoyed the tingling feeling I got when I peed and then wiped myself afterwards. My growing …
Tag: sex and sexuality
I need to buy a new nightdress. The one I’ve been wearing is torn all the way down the armpit and around the neck. It’s an old nightdress so it’s paid its dues, so to speak. …
“Nimechoka kupendwa kwa giza kama mihadarati” (I’m tired of being loved in the dark like illegal drugs) My best friend said this to me when we both got turned down at the same time by these …
I agreed to go spend the Christmas holiday at my boyfriend’s family house because I spoke with his mum and she called me daughter-in-law. Over the phone, my boyfriend told me, ” Babe, you know, my …
A few weeks ago, I shared on Twitter about how Valentine’s Day brings hard feelings for me as a queer person living in a homophobic country because the threat of danger and violence just looms over …
Theme: Your Creativity As Resistance Adventures From The Bedrooms of African Women is pleased to announce that applications will open on January 15, 2022, for the 2022 Adventurous Social Media, Writing and Visual Arts (SWV) …
Theme: Your Creativity As Resistance Adventures From The Bedrooms of African Women is pleased to announce that applications will open on January 15, 2022 for the 2022 Adventurous Social Media, Writing and Visual Arts (SWV) …
I drafted this while I was in bed trying to check out of the dark cloud that I was feeling stuck under during one of my episodes of self-doubt. (This needs to come with a trigger …
I’m on Tinder. I’m sure it’s common knowledge. If it’s not, well you know something about me now. So, my bio says “I’m looking for a summer romance”. Pretty simple right? You would think so. However, …
What is womanhood to you? How do you define yours? Your essence? It’s a question I get a lot; not only about my Womanhood but my Disability. I surprise myself with how patiently I respond every …
Do you dream of a forever love? A lot of us will probably respond with an affirmative “yes”. Romantic love, with all its ups and downs, is one of the revered things in the world. People …