When I was growing up my mother used to tell me that she was saving up money so that when she gets to her retirement age, she can have herself moved into an old age home because she knew I wouldn’t look after her. Thinking of it now, the frequency of the conversation should have been a sign, but I didn’t know it then. It was usually a conversation brought on by my lack of desire to do chores of …
Author: Makgosi
I need to buy a new nightdress. The one I’ve been wearing is torn all the way down the armpit and around the neck. It’s an old nightdress so it’s paid its dues, so to speak. …
I drafted this while I was in bed trying to check out of the dark cloud that I was feeling stuck under during one of my episodes of self-doubt. (This needs to come with a trigger …
My name is … I was being interviewed for a TV segment about Disability the other day and I had to introduce myself on camera (Quite a few times; things you learn in the media!) and while …
I became disabled in my mid-thirties. So I lived a lifetime as an able-bodied person, and I always wonder if anybody else who starts life as a disabled person ever misses the life they had before. …
I’m on Tinder. I’m sure it’s common knowledge. If it’s not, well you know something about me now. So, my bio says “I’m looking for a summer romance”. Pretty simple right? You would think so. However, …
What is womanhood to you? How do you define yours? Your essence? It’s a question I get a lot; not only about my Womanhood but my Disability. I surprise myself with how patiently I respond every …
Do you dream of a forever love? A lot of us will probably respond with an affirmative “yes”. Romantic love, with all its ups and downs, is one of the revered things in the world. People …
I forgot what it’s like to be lonely. It’s a funny statement to make considering the times we are living in, with a pandemic outside and having spent the better part of the start of the …
My life is now online because of the Covid pandemic and other accessibility challenges for me as a vaccinated Disabled person. Hence, I am exposed to a lot of conversations that I would not be able …
“Soo…. Can you ….uhm, you know”? “Can I do what? Please use your words” “Can you have sex?” “Yes I can. I’m assuming you can too” “Of course. Why wouldn’t I?” “Well you assumed it for …
