In a few minutes it will be a year since Adventures from the Bedrooms of African Women launched in cyber space and what a year it has been. I had no particular expectations when I suggested to my friend that we start this blog, infact what I originally wanted was for Abena and I to write a book together about the realities of sex and the African woman but I feared that it would go the way of our other project and die even before it birthed. Hence the idea for a blog came about. With blogs you have to update regularly, you have readers you owe a responsibility to…
The other reasons I was motivated …

They say when you lay down with dogs, you get up with fleas, and nothing puts a damper on any sexual experience, clandestine or otherwise when you get out of bed with proverbial “fleas”. These include STDs (herpes, the “clap” or *shudder* AIDS), parasites (like crabs and body lice) or the occasional blastocyst, which left unchecked will become a cute little baby boy/girl in 9 months.
As fun as sex often is and can be, it is one of the most dangerous activities an African woman on the continent can engage in. With dubious and perverse men running around engaging in hybrid sex with multiple partners (some human and some not), they introduce all kinds of …

I was interviewed by Joy Fm (a private radio station in Ghana) on the 14th of January on the existence of the G Spot. The actual segment which was broadcast on air included a sampling of the public on the subject. What came across to me very clearly, when the opinions of members of the public was sampled, was the amount of misconception that exists about the G spot and women’s orgasms. In this post I would like to clear some misconceptions and state some personal thoughts:
When a woman has an orgasm it does not necessarily mean her G Spot has been hit. The G Spot refers to a zone (rather than a mere spot) …

I’m quite judgemental, I make up my mind about people fairly early on. I know almost from the minute I meet a guy whether I’m attracted to him or not. There are some people that you become attracted to the more you hang out with them. Of course there are also other people that you become less attracted to the more you hang out with them.
I have a weakness for guys who do their own thing – men who are entrepreneurial, the kind that you know will make it some day – I don’t think those type of men are attracted to me. I think they prefer more “homely” and traditional women, women who will …

As usual the conversation revolved around the men in their lives:
“Charle, as for me, I have had it with boys, they are lying, cheating scumbags. I think I shall just remain single – after all I get better orgasms from my vibrator”.
“I have never used a vibrator before”.
“Oh come on Kukua! In this day and age, we need to fix this situation now”
Aba stands slowly, gives Kukua a mischievous smile and heads for her bedroom, re-appearing with what appears to be a vanity case.
“Okay, Kukua your re-education starts now. So, this pink dildo with what appears to be rabbit ears on the side is the famous Rampant Rabbit. These on the other hand are anal …

New Year, New Adventures … for some time now I have been thinking about writing erotic fiction. In my opinion, there isn’t much good quality erotic fiction on the internet (yes, I have been searching) and so for 2010 I am going to turn my hand to writing erotic fiction. I will also use the relative safety of fiction to write on those subjects that my readers are keen to know more about, but contributors are reluctant to write on…as usual, no topic is off limit. Enjoy the story below and let me know your thoughts:
“A relationship with a woman should not be drama”, Kukua thought. She had been hooking up with her friend Aba …

So, does anyone have any sexy stories to share involving Christmas, Santa Claus or anything remotely yuletide?

So I’m one of those that who has chosen to try hard to practice the no premarital sex clause. As I have gotten older though, it has become increasingly difficult to get men to be down with this. My relationships are either long distance – so the sex thing doesn’t have to come up too often – or rather short lived. I made peace with this a long time ago – and accept the need for others to live out their own value systems.
I have to be upfront though and say that the kind of virginity I practice is the “everything, but” kind. Well not exactly – because my but …

Humph. As for this Adventure di333, I’m just going to recount the tale verbatim so that my personal views do not detract from the beauty of this story.
A friend of mine recently traveled to Ghana to lick her wounds after a particularly bad break up with her boyfriend. (I guess when you’re parents have money you can do that…flee to Ghana to heal your broken heart.) On the return flight to the states from Amsterdam on KLM, she was seated by a 50 something Palestinian man and struck up a conversation with him. She told him why she was in Ghana and now returning back to the States, he told her he was a divorced …

The worst part of any date for me is when the bill arrives. Who pays? The man? The woman? The one who initiated the date? Should you always offer to go dutch? Should you make a half-hearted attempt to reach for your purse? Should you insist on paying half? Should he (or she) pay for one date and you pay for the next? Does it matter who pays?
Three date “payment” issues stick in my mind.
Once upon a time I decided to explore internet dating. Truth be told, I wanted to write a book which was going to be titled “Finding Mr Right on the Internet”. My research involved going on numerous dates courtesy …