Hello Lovely People! Today I’ve decided to wade into the controversial waters of gay/ lesbian rights. Most Africans are ‘allegedly’ conservative and so it appears that the farther a person strays from vanilla sex (vanilla sex meaning: straight, conservative sex, missionary position preferred, both parties polite and maybe a tad bit shy about the act itself), the more condemned you would be by African society. So, it is no surprise that ...  [Read more]

I promised Nana to write an article for her blog over two years ago. Since then, many things have happened.  At the time, we were at Nana’s house, with this dashing young lady from America with Ugandan blood flowing in her veins. At the risk of objectifying her, I will say she was a looker, the kind that makes you want to go down on your knees and promise her the world, including learning the Kazkh  language. After a wonderful chat, I asked ...  [Read more]

Yesterday I was privileged to be at the first meet-up for Queer Ladies of African Descent (QLAD), which took place in a Seneglase restaurant in uptown New York. I ate grilled tilapia, couscous and kelewele in the company of some of the nicest ladies I have met in a long while. C and I were ‘doing’ kokonsa (gossiping) during the meeting about a party of 4 women and 1 man that were sitting to the right of our table. ‘Are they all his ...  [Read more]

Last night I went to a strip club for gay guys. Of course this fact, in and of itself, would be unremarkable until you consider that I went alone, in an unfamiliar city, and that I’m a girl who likes (mostly) girls. WTF you ask? That’s more like it. Admittedly, I started out the evening armed with googlemaps directions to a lesbian bar within walking distance, but true to clueless form, I got lost. Turns out it didn’t matter ...  [Read more]

A friend informed me that today is 'National Coming Out Day', and i jokingly said to her, 'Great, lets come out on the blog today'. A few minutes later I check my twitter account and www.feministing.com have a link to a post on 'Happy Coming Out Day'...I liked the following quote from their site: "It’s well documented that the more people someone knows who are LGBTQ, the more accepting they are of queer folks. So find someway to ...  [Read more]