I was incredibly stressed. Everything was going according to schedule but every time I looked around I couldn’t help but notice things that were not as perfect as I imagined. Chairs weren’t sitting right. I hadn’t …
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By Billy Hani ‘Kumamako’ is a popular Swahili insult, offline and online. ‘Kuma’ means vagina while ‘mamaku’ means your mother. No one takes it kindly when their mother is insulted. ‘Ther’ or ‘olundi’ is an insult …
I am sitting on the balcony of our family home in Jinja, Uganda, looking at the River Nile right at the bottom of our garden. This spot and this view has truly added a lot of …
We’ve spent a considerable amount of time in the previous pieces unpacking non-monogamy and discussing how to navigate jealousy, envy and compersion in these dynamics. The idea of managing multiple relationships or seeing yourself share your …
There is a ton of material out there that advocates for the use of pleasure products and toys, and how instrumental they can be in the journey of exploring pleasure. Toys have empowered a lot of …
Squirting: What’s all the hype? Thank the pleasure gods that for the last few decades, the myth on female orgasms has been dispelled! The conversations now are moving towards exploring the pleasure potential of female-bodied people …
By Billy Hani Periods are some of the most discussed things about women and people assigned female or intersex at birth. There are mixed feelings about it ranging from the painful cramps, the sight of blood, …
Very often, when people hear about polyamory, their first reaction is to ask how it is possible to love and live like this with all that we come with as humans. While it hasn’t always been …
In the first part of this series, we discussed differentiating between envy and jealousy, and how it’s possible to view these emotions as opportunities to identify what you may be lacking or desiring in your relationship. …
She lowers her head and I shut my eyes as she kisses me, tenderly this time. I kiss her back. She pulls back and whispers against my mouth, her forehead against mine. “You finally stopped thinking.” …