Written by Miracle Okah It rained the day Adigun brought in another woman to meet Ope at home. Ope had just come from her toddler’s room, having finally rocked him to sleep, when she heard Adigun’s voice. She walked into the corridor and saw him with the new woman — light-skinned, slender, with hips that could drive any man crazy. Ope stood still, too stunned to speak. Adigun smiled nervously, the kind of smile he gave when he knew he …
Tag: polyamory
Catch up here. After three months of working as a sex worker, I have met different types of men — and women. Some just needed a quick fuck – wham, bang, goodbye. Others like to take …
We’ve spent a considerable amount of time in the previous pieces unpacking non-monogamy and discussing how to navigate jealousy, envy and compersion in these dynamics. The idea of managing multiple relationships or seeing yourself share your …
Very often, when people hear about polyamory, their first reaction is to ask how it is possible to love and live like this with all that we come with as humans. While it hasn’t always been …
In the first part of this series, we discussed differentiating between envy and jealousy, and how it’s possible to view these emotions as opportunities to identify what you may be lacking or desiring in your relationship. …
“But how do you deal with jealousy?” This is the commonest question I’ve had in all my years living as an out non-monogamous person, and in my work as an intimacy and sex coach. I hear …
Like with any relationship, monogamous or not, safety is a big thing that needs careful attention and thought. The responsibility to maintain safety increases when you are intimately involved with more than one person; simply …
Non-monogamy has been a hot topic in the last few years as we see more and more people claim this part of their identity and share their lived experiences with the world. Like with so many …
Ethical non-monogamy can be defined as participating in more than one relationship in an ethical way. “Ethical” implies that everyone involved is consenting and aware they are in a relationship where non-monogamy features, they have discussed …
I am a big fan of goal setting. I think there is a lot of power in reflecting on your life, figuring out what you want to change, stating clearly what you want to manifest, taking …
