The Initiation: the first encounter had happened the night before, and there were the usual fumbles and insecurities. We had been sending sexy text messages all morning, and finally I summed up enough courage to tell him what I liked and what I wanted. It didn’t quite start off so formal, but given his management background thought it would be a good route to use. Needless to say the directions given were followed to a‘t’.
Dear Mr. X,
I was happy when my phone died as I thought I could then focus on the work that is at hand, rather than the work to be done later. Suffice to say I kept scrolling back to your …

A few weeks ago I started going out with this incredibly hot guy.
Beautiful eyes and smile, insane body, amazing skin; the works. Aside
from his pleasing-to-the-eye looks, he’s also a sweetheart. He’s
surprisingly unassuming and I just feel comfortable around him. I was
floating high on “new crush fumes” until last week when we had sex.
Disappointment does not even begin to scratch the surface of what I
felt during and afterwards. Firstly, let’s just say our friend is not
well-endowed. This is something I’m not too used to but I was willing
to work with it if he was. Well he wasn’t. It was the type of sex
where the man think a perfunctory squeeze of your breasts is enough to
get you …

Recently, one of our readers (Naa) mentioned in a comment that she has been enduring what I consider a HORRIBLE ordeal for the last 11 years. Her husband, who I assume she has been committed and faithful to (she didn’t indicate that she has cheated on him), performs very poorly in the sack. Specifically, he is prone to premature ejaculation and has been for the duration of their marriage.
Now, what one person deems as “premature” ejaculation is subject to experience and preference in my opinion. It can range from cumming before there is any insertion at all (which has been my sad experience) to lasting only a few strokes once there is pelvic-to-pelvic contact. For …

They say when you lay down with dogs, you get up with fleas, and nothing puts a damper on any sexual experience, clandestine or otherwise when you get out of bed with proverbial “fleas”. These include STDs (herpes, the “clap” or *shudder* AIDS), parasites (like crabs and body lice) or the occasional blastocyst, which left unchecked will become a cute little baby boy/girl in 9 months.
As fun as sex often is and can be, it is one of the most dangerous activities an African woman on the continent can engage in. With dubious and perverse men running around engaging in hybrid sex with multiple partners (some human and some not), they introduce all kinds of …

Humph. As for this Adventure di333, I’m just going to recount the tale verbatim so that my personal views do not detract from the beauty of this story.
A friend of mine recently traveled to Ghana to lick her wounds after a particularly bad break up with her boyfriend. (I guess when you’re parents have money you can do that…flee to Ghana to heal your broken heart.) On the return flight to the states from Amsterdam on KLM, she was seated by a 50 something Palestinian man and struck up a conversation with him. She told him why she was in Ghana and now returning back to the States, he told her he was a divorced …

Perhaps I am biased, but I believe that African women have the best child rearing skills on the planet. Period.
There is so much unrecognized and under-appreciated wisdom that our women employ in the running of their households. It starts with compartmentalizing relationships. In Africa, children are children; elders are elders and husbands husbands. On the rare occasion, one may cross into the realm of “friend”, but for the most part, children in African society are not thought of as their mother’s friend until they are MUCH older. The thought that you are not your child’s friend is shocking, almost a dirty sin, in the West and I am ashamed to say that I have forsaken …

I am defining a “good” relationship as one in which both parties are happy and fulfilled. However being in a “good” relationship does not always guarantee a great sex life (although a great sex life might be one of your indicators for a good relationship). So here are my thoughts on how to have great sex in a relationship:

Remember that sex is important! Sometimes sex gets left on the back burner, what with the demands of work, children (if you have them) and all the various other commitments you may have. You can even try making “nooky dates” to guarantee that you do have sex.

Flip the script. I know I have said this …

I guess it is only fair after writing ‘Sex tips for men who sleep with women…’ that I follow it up with ‘Sex tips for women who sleep with men…’
In my previous post I said that the very way most of us have sex is more likely to result in pleasure for the male body rather than the female body. So, it stands to reason that if women want to have better sex then they need to take more control over the sex act(s). Ladies, I don’t know about you, but when I take control in bed I am always guaranteed a great time. After all, you know best what your body wants and needs. …

This blog has been inspired by Kwaku who wanted a few tips for men as ‘women are so complicated’. I always get baffled when men say women are complicated. Two almost contradictory thoughts tend to pop into my mind.
1. Women are really not that complicated.2. Actually it’s a good thing to be ‘complex’. Being ‘complex’ implies you are interesting, that there is more to you than meets the eye, that your thoughts are not just one dimensional but multi-dimensional, layered and multi-faceted…
So what would you rather be?
Hmmm, where do I start when it comes to giving sex tips to men who have sex with women? …