It hurt my heart to read Dede’s piece “Please God, Let Me Be Fertile” and it was this line: “It didn’t help that anytime I asked people what they knew about uterine fibroids they were so ignorant” that really struck a chord with me.  Fibroids are definitely a “been there, done that” experience for a good number of us African women, so why don’t we talk about them more? Why don’t we all know more about them? When I was ...  [Read more]

This post was inspired by a comment made by Kai on the post “Please God Let me be Fertile” written by Dede. Thanks to both Dede and Kai for sharing their personal stories. While reading the comments from Dede’s post, I read a statement written by Kai she wrote “…I started my periods when I was 9…” and my reaction was immediate and visceral as I mouthed the words Oh my God! This reaction was not an expression of shock at the fact ...  [Read more]

I hate my periods. Full stop. I just don't get it. I wish I could be all earth mother'ish about the sustenance of life flowing out of my body but I just can't. Periods suck. Big time. Plus mine last FOREVER...6 days! Without fail, every 25 days or so I start to bleed. I can't wear thongs in that period (cos I fill a super sized tampon in less than an hour. Okay that's a bit of an exaggeration). I can't wear white cos there have ...  [Read more]

Ladies, I need some advice here. A while ago, I was on a promise, all set up and ready to happen at 5pm on a given day (no, I'm not not anal like that, just that she closed from work at 4.30pm and it would take her 30 mins to get to me) Anyway, at about 10am that morning, I get a call from this chick all apologetic and explaining that she had just come on. "Come on what? I asked". My psyched up mind just couldn't comprehend that anything ...  [Read more]

It’s the week before my period and I am so freakin’ horny. It is not even funny!I think about sex all of the bloody time (and Nana reading your blog is not helping at all).Everything I see a hot looking guy I wonder what he will be like in the sack. Have you ever wondered what it will be like to do one of those hot looking, muscular fishermen on the beach? We don’t need to have a conversation just some hot steamy sex…Who says only men ...  [Read more]