"Hey" was what I whatsapp's him just after midnight. I don't even know why I was whatsapp'ing him. I had asked him several times why he would always contact me after the midnight hour even though he has a girlfriend and all he could say would be something along the lines of, "You're a good friend and I like to stay in touch with my friends".  Yeah right. He responded almost immediately:   "What you up to?" "Nothing, I just got ...  [Read more]

The first time So as you know, it all started with Paa Kwesi saying Ibrahim was dying to see me. I had treated HIM to lunch at the Mall and he called his cousin. He insisted that we meet up soon, and so we did on Friday night, I think it was. Maybe it was Saturday. I can’t remember. Anyway we went to dinner at the Mall, grabbed a quick bite to eat and then saw The Hobbit. He complimented me the ENTIRE time. He seemed really surprised ...  [Read more]

Hi Nana, I'm not sure if you recall that the last time I run into you I told you about someone who had expressed a sexual interest in me. Long and short is that we ended up sleeping together a couple of times. She expressed her love for me...I found myself developing serious feelings for her. I happen to be a journal-writer (been one for 25yrs now almost). I guess out of guilt and whatnot, I recorded our escapades, and affair. My ...  [Read more]

Dear Missie (short version of Mistress), You probably expect this to be another article that condemns you and tells you you’re a horrible person for banging another woman’s husband.  You probably expect me to urge you to leave him. But I won’t say these things to you because I know you’ve heard them over and over again. How do I know? You see, Missie, I have been you before- once. Actually, I have been you five times. I have ...  [Read more]

This is a first of sorts for me. After years of amateur research into Classical Africa to enlighten fellow Trinidadians about the richness of their culture, this is the very first time I’m actually writing on a site based in Africa itself (and hopefully I do not make it the last time, I tend to have that effect). I learned of this website after a debate initiated by a two-part essay I wrote on another website entitled “The Myth of ...  [Read more]

I really need your advice. I've been seeing this guy for 6months now, he's cute, nice , caring, and very generous. The main problem is the sex is so crappy, sometimes I end up crying. We have foreplay and as soon as his penis goes in he goes flaccid within 2mins. This happens all the time. Even when he manages to stay hard he never comes. In the 6 months I have been with him he has never come. I'm confused as I believe I will cheat on him ...  [Read more]

Are there double standards around men and women's sexualities? How true is this in Ghana and Africa? Why do men cheat? Why do women cheat? How does society respond when a man cheats? How is this response different when a woman cheats? Just a few of the questions I have posed on my fellow blogger's Ms Cleland's site at http://maameous.blogspot.com/Let me know your ...  [Read more]