I love this image. It captures the desire I sometimes feel to be held close and tight by someone who really cares for me. My multi-talented friend Amina gifted this image to me to accompany a piece I've written for This is Africa on 'Love and the successful African woman'. Check out my article, and let me know your comments via the TIA ...  [Read more]

I lie face down, ass in air, trying to drown out the grunts coming from behind me. My coochie is on fire and all my attention is focused on praying that this time I won’t have a slit when he is done. Balls slap my clit intermittently. I can’t concentrate enough to produce the pattern needed to induce my external orgasm. Earlier as we attempted foreplay, he said I looked indifferent. I had smiled apologetically at him, having no other ...  [Read more]

Okay it happened, on my birthday *which is why I no fit forget am; imagine, my birthday *smh. Anyway we planned the day carefully, luxurious 4-star hotel, Chinese food, dancing and hot sex after it all. We got to the hotel, booked into one of their suites and started pre smooching. Got over a nice quickie then started getting ready for dinner at the restaurant. The evening went so well, I didn’t dance as much as I wanted because he was horny ...  [Read more]

In a few hours it will be 2013, and a few weeks into 2013 it will be 4 years since Malaka and I started this blog. 4 years ago in my introductory post I shared what had motivated me to start this blog. Its been an amazing 4 years and I have learnt a lot from writing and curating this site. I have met some fabulous people, been impressed with the quality of writing from our numerous guest contributors, been shocked, amused, turned on, by what we ...  [Read more]

We sat in the car, he reached for my head, pulled me closer and kissed me again. He didn't want to stop, I was enjoying it; felt the wetness in my special lady parts *yes kissing gets me there. Good kissing ooo not just anything*. I felt his deep aroused breath as he leaned in more for the kiss. He reached around my short dress *yes it made me easy to access, no I no sheda wear am ;)*. The good girl in me, who has been virtually stifled these ...  [Read more]

I took a one hour trotro trip just to meet up with him. I knew right from the moment he said he’ll be somewhere close to my Region; I wanted to get down and dirty with him. I’d tried a steamy one hour make-out session with him about two months ago and I felt no spark. After much deliberation and consultation, it was agreed *among selected women-folk of mine* to give him a second try. Maybe I wasn’t in the right frame of mind then. I mean, ...  [Read more]

I've recently found myself questioning my desire to have multiple sexual partners. I have always been monogamous even when I'm with a casual sexual partner as with my current situation. He is great in bed...exceptionally open to trying new things so logically I should be satisfied but he is not my boyfriend and whilst I am not in a steady relationship I want to have as much (safe) fun as possible. I recently bumped into someone who I have ...  [Read more]

Yesterday, over drinks with new friends, I was telling the story of a close friend who went on a ‘boy’s trip’ to Brazil. The highlight of his story (which I’ll admit I was retelling with a lot of glee) was of the ‘clubs’ in Rio that, for all intents and purposes, are brothels. Guys pay approximately $100 at the door for access to the women you can manage to pull inside. The second floor and above is adorned with rooms for your ...  [Read more]

  It was one of those hotel rooms where men who work in the lower ranks of Ghana’s civil service take their newly acquired girlfriends to for a ‘short time’. The walls were a strange shade of white; the bed had sheets that must have been white once upon a time, and the cleaner consistently missed the rat dropping that clung stubbornly to the wall beneath the air conditioning unit.   He had spent two nights in my bed, ...  [Read more]

So roots4life’s piece on moaning appeared right after an interesting experience I had a few weekends ago. I wanted to spice things up a bit, so my boyfriend and I spent the weekend in a hotel. We had already had sex twice before we left to go check in. He had come over for a visit and I wanted his opinion on something I was going to wear out with friends that night. As soon as I put the outfit on he ordered me to leave it exactly as it was and ...  [Read more]