I spent a lot of time last week thinking about orgasms. Specifically I found myself thinking, ‘what does it take to have a “mind blowing orgasm”.
I love that phrase, “mind blowing orgasm”. It reminds me of a dear friend who one described sex between herself and a boyfriend as ‘mind blowing’. My mind was blown at that description. Wow! Sex could be mind-blowing? I guess I wasn’t having mind-blowing sex at that time…
So the question that I decided to ask one of my close friends last week was…’What conditions needs to be in place for you to have a mind-blowing orgasm?’ And her response was:

Talking dirty/spanking/porn
Sufficiently aroused (lubricated)
No pressure like I have to validate someone …

A reader of this blog asked me ‘So, how did you get so confident?’. I guess what she really meant was, how did you become so bold in writing about sex? The fact is, I don’t think it’s confidence that has led to me writing about sexuality. I think my motivation is a continuation of my politics as a feminist. I think women have the RIGHT to have great sex and I think a lack of knowledge prevents a lot of us from having great sex.
There is also a lot of silence about sex (I have to point out that I am speaking from my personal standpoint). My sex education as a child was primarily …